Experience vs. Relationship

We, as the human race, crave experiences. Lots of us even have lists.
I want to:
Skydive
Visit the Taj Mahal
Snorkel
Tour the White House
Kiss an alligator
And we check these things off with a self-satisfied smile.  
The problem is that we like to try to do this with people and with God. 
I want to:
Get married
Have kids
Be friends with...INSERT NAME.
What we really mean is that we want to experience being married or having kids or being their friend. We want to enjoy their love and company and the purpose they provide our lives. We want to benefit from their connections, money, boat and RV.
We are thinking about all the good things. 
Not, I want to love them when we have no money, they lose their job or their health, and we have to move to Fairbanks, AK. 
Not, I want to be there when they are screaming and so much goop is coming from their nose, they vomit. 
Not, I want to be a good friend when their mom dies, or they are going through cancer treatment or substance abuse counseling.
That's not what we want to experience. 
But that is what a relationship is -- it's a life, not an experience.